I have scheduled today a meeting between me and my son's teacher and the school counselor. We are going to get to the bottom of LightningBoy's behaviors as a group.
I'm going to assume (rather erroneously based on what I've heard parents name their children) that LightningBoy is a code name.
I DID talk to the counselor yesterday and she did have a couple of valid behavior examples of blaming others, but not of bullying.
Why is "did" in caps? Well, whatever.
Also I wasn't aware blaming others was a behavior problem. I'm pretty sure everyone except for me does it in a near constant basis to evade personal responsibility.
I mean, after 2-3 years of constant bullying problems, I wouldn't blame him AT ALL for being paranoid of his classmates.
Pussy kid being bullied? Send to him the Shaolin Temple in China for one year. He'll come back ready to kick the shit out of anyone.
I believe that all us sensitive, sensory processing, ADD people who grew up with no diagnoses or understanding only a few decades ago, just wondered what was wrong with us, bucked up and learned how to deal with the world on our own.
Wow that sounds awful! Having to toughen up sure is, well, tough!
THUS, I am HAPPY to be able to provide my kids with diagnoses, help them understand themselves and get them the help that I can't provide.
What is IT with RANDOM caps in your POSTS? I read this like you have trouble controlling the volume of your voice (which you probably do).
Also way to turn your kids into a bunch of helpless fagorts.
I keep thinking that our family's genetics is like a funnel, and as we get closer and closer to the small end we get a concentration of what was wrong with previous generations.
Hmmm, is that enough of an idea for a research study? lol
Well the only way that makes sense is if "our" family is reproducing with itself because the introduction of new genetic material would dilute the effects of any major genetic issues most likely, unless your family is extremely, extremely unlucky.
Which would be possible if you live in the Warhammer world. Both having a soul (and how strong your soul is) and luck are genetic factors.
Last week, ArtGrrl drew up her first contract.
She wrote:
Promis _____ (LightningBoy had to write "yes" on the line)
No ripy the cocnoc _______ (LightningBoy had to check this line)
(No ripping the contract)
Name ________________________ (which LightningBoy had to sign his name)
Aren't I proud? She wrote a contract to make her brother promise not to rip up the contract. Loophole proof and everything. She's 7 going on Lawyer.
Actually the contract (or "cocnoc" as your daughter calls it) doesn't stipulate to cutting or burning or shredding.
Perhaps a better turn of phrase would be "no willing or wanton destruction of this contract by all parties bound to it" but hey, she is seven.
She filled out the teacher's version of the evaluation sheet and she wrote that he OFTEN showed his temper? and that he OFTEN was a bully? and that he was OFTEN defiant? and that he is OFTEN spiteful or vindictive???
Defiant and vindictive. I sense great things for this waterhead.
I mean, I can see him trying to be a leader and being bossy about it... but, bullying????
I can see him NOT hearing her say something to him and not doing what she asks because he didn't hear her and MAYBE her taking that as defiance?
Or maybe he caught on at an early age that school is bullshit?
I mean you seem ready to dismiss this as a possibility. Maybe your kid is just a fuck up, lady.
The thing is that most of what I hear my son tell me about how his teacher does things... doesn't sound fair or consistent.
I see what's happening here.
She charged LightningBoy $10. school bucks because he needed to check his backpack for a missing paper! She charges $2. school bucks if they need to go to the bathroom. IF you owe her money, then you have to stay in at recess.
Because they whispered in line (outside) a handful of students lost recess for a month!
Yes, this is what the Spartans used to do to prepare their children for a life of badassery.
Your kid failed. He cried to his mother instead of finding ways around it. Although, admittedly, you should have been there to tell him to figure it out.
And the reason LightningBoy was involved with that is because the people behind him were talking and the person in front of him said, "Stop talking, pass it on." and my son thought it was a good idea to "pass it on" and got caught.
Was there a "no talking" rule? If so, your kid was talking and got caught. The semantic value of the message is irrelevant because there was no talking.
The person who started it didn't get caught.
The strong and the fortunate get to carry on, the weak and the less fortunate lose recess.
I told him for JUST this year.Only worry about yourself and don't help people. argh.
I wasn't kidding about this being Spartan practice.
She even wrote that he needs to "not cry every time I approach him".
Ha, ha, ha, ha. Still, I feel bad for the kid, but goddamn.
I will talk to a therapist about him on Thursday. I am getting him tested for CAPD.
Which is complex acronym for "ADHD".
Now, if only this year could hurry and end and we can get away from that teacher!
Someday we hope to get that magical combination of good teacher and good classmates for my poor son.
Not happening. Ever. He'll either become a total pussy, end up shooting the school up, or wind up like me.
Okay I've been thinking what your one dumbass should do to stop the bullies. Next time one starts picking on him, he should look him square in the face and punch him in the nose. Hard. Then when the kid drops, he should start kicking him until the teacher pulls him off.
The fallout will be immense and probably harsh, but his entire elementary school career will be smooth sailing as everyone is too afraid to approach.
It was a major thought.
Here's the final result/explanation of YEARS of thinking about this:
My past is what made me who I am. I like who I am.
I think you're missing a major precept of both Buddhism and Yoga but okay, whatever. It isn't a spiritual practice for you (as much as I'm sure you'd hate to admit it).
The point of all that "forgetting your past" is to live entirely in the moment. If you forget your past and yourself then you will be nothing, and therefore everything.
Then you'd know what to do about your dumbass kids and their bullying problems.
This year we get to go to church at 11am but we actually go at 10:15am for choir.
If the whole Buddhism thing is lost on you because you're too much of a Christfag just set your dumbass kids up with the code of conduct of the Knights Templar. Same basic result in the end.
Remember, when picking a code of conduct you have two basic choices: monastic and chivalric, and it's always best to err on the side of monastic if you want badassery.
In conclusion, fuck it.
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In the obove posted comment, 'willowy' meant that they were thin and weak and leaned over and still managed to take everything good, starving those around it of vital nutrients.
Which almost sounds badass there at the end.
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